No Cages

Back when we were happy newlyweds, my husband and I thought about buying a motorcycle. For his 40th birthday, I surprised him by signing us up on a Poker Run that some of his airport friends were doing. I asked around about what kind of bike he might like, and I had my ideas about the kind of motorcycle I wanted to be on the back of. We ended up renting an aqua and white Softail.

Totally retro. Totally cool.

At one of the stops, I was talking to one of the wives, Susan. Susan was a bit of a bad ass. She flew her own airplane and rode her own Harley. I thought that was pretty cool and told her how much I’d always wanted to learn to ride. She encouraged me to learn and had me dreaming about maybe even having a motorcycle of my own. I also shared with her that hubs and I were talking about maybe having a baby. Susan didn’t have any kids of her own so she didn’t really see the appeal. Her response was short and to the point.

“A baby or a bike.”

I sort of blinked incredulously at her statement.

“Excuse me, what?” *blink* *blink*

“You have to choose. If you’re going to have a baby, you can’t have a motorcycle.”

I don’t like being told I can’t do something, so naturally, I got a little defensive, but deep down, I knew she was right. It wasn’t practical for us to have a baby and a motorcycle. We could really only afford to go down one path at the time, and happily, we chose the path of diapers, SUVs, tuition, and all kinds of sweetness.

Ultimately, Susan was wrong. It’s possible for me (or any woman) to have both.

Just maybe not all at once.

Fast forward almost 10 years since that ride, through the Jones’s separation, near divorce, and reconciliation. My husband and I have been remembering all the things we said we wanted to do together. One of those things was for me to learn to ride so we could go on long rides together. This is where it gets really cool…

As you know, I don’t have a Bucket List or Life List. I don’t even have a current Vision Board (though I do love my vision boards), but I did have that thought way, way, way back and it never really left me. Somewhere in the back of my mind, there was a seed waiting to sprout. So when this very cool opportunity popped up out of practically nowhere, I jumped at the chance!

What opportunity? An invite to go to Harley-Davidson HQ in Milwaukee, WI, baby!!

As a part of Harley-Davidson’s outreach to women, I was invited, along with several super amazing bloggers to the headquarters in Milwaukee to learn more about their learn-to-ride programs and the overall history and awesomeness that is Harley-Davidson. While there, we were treated to a Garage Party at Hal’s (a local Harley-Davidson dealership), including a JumpStart demo, and later that week, an Introductory Motorcycle Experience in the parking lot of the corporate offices.*

*No executives were harmed in the teaching of bloggers to ride.

Garage Party at Hal’s

Garage Parties are events to introduce the newbies to the sport of motorcycle riding. They’re held at Harley-Davidson stores throughout the country. At these events, attendees learn about the motorcycles, gear, essentials, and get to participate in a couple of practical demonstrations. One was learning how to pick a bike up if it falls over. That was something we all admitted to being afraid of, so when we got our chance to get a bike upright from the ground, we felt a little more comfortable about the prospect of riding. Then we got to check out the JumpStart!!

JumpStart

The JumpStart is an actual Harley on a contraption that allows you to get the feel for the bike while remaining safely in one place. While the motorcycle is stationery, you can learn how to start it, rev it up, and change gears, just as if you were riding. If you’ve ever driven a stick shift, the shifting is the same, except that you’re using your left hand and left foot. Thanks to a little coaching at home from Mr. Jones, I got the gear shifting on the first try. The most surprising part of the demo was how little I had to touch the throttle to get that machine to ROOOAAAARRRR!!!

Aww yeah!

We also got to ride on the back of a few cool Harley employees’ motorcycles along through downtown Milwaukee and along the shores of Lake Michigan. (PS: You know what? Milwaukee is a pretty cool city!) I did NOT want to get off the bike. In fact, I wanted to get on the motorcycle myself and go on a ride! Just one thing…I still didn’t know how. I was riding with Deb, who is the head of Rider’s Edge, a new rider clinic held at participating Harley-Davidson stores. Deb assured me that after taking the class, I would be ready to hit the road.

But first, just to whet our appetite, we dipped our toes in the water.

Introductory Motorcycle Experience

Deb and Tracy took us through the basics of riding a motorcycle. Mounting, putting it in neutral, turning it on, revving the motor (my favorite), and initial take off in first. Needless to say, I was very excited to get on the bike.

That’s Carmen of Mom to the Screaming Masses on my right. She’s a bad ass with SIX kids!

And here I am with my classmates and instructors:

Top row: Me, Heather (@ScoutsHonor) of United States of Motherhood, Carmen (@mttsm), Dana Wilke from Harley-Davidson. Bottom Row: Instructors, Tracy and Deb.

After Tracy and Deb answered all of my questions and addressed all of my concerns, I knew 100%, that I wanted to move on to the next step: Rider’s Edge!!

Rider’s Edge

Rider’s Edge is a 4-day program (25 hours total) that is basic training for anyone ready to learn to ride. There are two in-class days and two days spent on the practice range where you’ll learn braking, turning, controlling skids, and other safety maneuvers. When you’re done with the Rider’s Edge Course, you’ll receive a MSF Basic RiderCourse Completion Card. Some states accept completion of this course in place of the riding portion of your motorcycle license test. You may also get a discount on insurance!

Thanks to the wonderful folks at Harley-Davidson, I will be taking the Rider’s Edge Course here in San Diego soon!

Harley-Davidson History

The Harley-Davidson Museum was such a great bonus on our trip. You don’t really understand how intertwined the company has been in our modern history until you walk through the museum. We had the privilege of being lead through the museum by one of the curators, Kimberly. She had some amazing stories to tell. For instance, the original documents where the founders divide up the stock. Mr. Harley only got 5 shares to everyone else’s average of 50. Until one of the sons came to the museum to tell the story, no one knew why the disparity. Turns out, Mr. Harley wanted to complete his education in engineering, so he took his stock in cash to pay for his schooling.

Here’s a bit of shaky video I took of some of the highlights:

Just outside of the museum was a parking sign that said “No Cages.” We asked what that meant. “Cars are cages,” they told us. Motorcycles, being closer to the elements and to life, are not. No Cages, they continued, means more than not having the body of a car around you. It’s a beloved term used to describe the motorcycle riding lifestyle. No Cages means not having anything holding you back. I loved that. I thought of all the cages I used to let hold me back, including the idea that I would have to choose between a baby or a bike.

Not anymore.

No cages, baby!!

And now… a little somethin’ somethin’ for YOU!

Tell me what life with “no cages” means to you and you’ll be entered for a chance to win a Harley-Davidson Women’s Pink Label Embellished Nylon Jacket.

Sweepstakes Rules:

No duplicate comments.
You may receive (2) total entries by selecting from the following entry methods:
a) Leave a comment in response to the sweepstakes prompt on this post
b) Tweet (public message) about this promotion; including exactly the
following unique term in your tweet message: “”#SweepstakesEntry”"; and leave the URL to that tweet in a comment on this post
c) Blog about this promotion, including a disclosure that you are receiving a sweepstakes entry in exchange for writing the blog post, and leave the URL to that post in a comment on this post
d) For those with no Twitter or blog, read the official rules to learn about an alternate form of entry.

This giveaway is open to US Residents age 18 or older. Winners will be selected via random draw, and will be notified by e-mail. You have 72 hours to get back to me, otherwise a new winner will be selected.

The Official Rules are available here.

This sweepstakes runs from July 31, 2012 to August 27, 2012

Be sure to visit the Harley-Davidson No Cages brand page on BlogHer.com where you can read other bloggersí reviews and find more chances to win!

Comments

  1. Um, I totally want to ride a Harley and sport one of those cool leather outfits. Adding this to my Bucket List for sure.

    •  @Sondra  I think you would look great in chaps! Hehehe! So, you’re coming with me to my Rider’s Edge class, then? Come on now… gotta check it off the list!

  2. MamarazziKnows says:

    Wow! Did your post take me down memory lane! I come from a family who grew up on the backs of bikes. My father had a huge Suzuki 500 (1960s). As teenagers, my grandfather would gift us a mini bike, but I was the lame teen and scared to death of motorcycles. So, my grandfather gave me a Badger type mini bike…and I hated it! My younger sister got a Honda dirt bike at 13. When I rode my sister’s bike, I realized that wind in my face and bugs in my eyes meant freedom: No Cages,baby! (This was pre-fancy shmancy helmets and goggles, hehe!).
    And we certainly didn’t have any cool apparel to wear back then, let alone jackets with pink writing for girls or women either!

  3. That looks like a hell of a lot of fun. I have wanted a motorcycle for a thousand years but haven’t done it because I am afraid of the teenager that lives inside this forty something year old body.
     
    But man oh man, your post has got me thinking….

  4. I haven’t had much time to think about what life with “no cages” means. Four kids and a hubby that just finished MBA school has had me taking it a day at a time without much though for anything else. But now that you have my wheels rolling (figuratively), for me it means not waiting to pursue items on my bucket list no matter how busy/scared/nervous/crazy I am. I am the only thing holding me back!

  5. And here’s my tweet! https://twitter.com/emihill/status/232269186385190912

  6. maggieunz says:

    What a great giveaway! Sugar, I want to go riding with you! I’m such a loyal fan. Love, love, love your blog! But not in the way. Ha! 

    •  @maggieunz Harley-Davidson really is a great company. So happy I got to play in their sandbox. So what kind of bike would YOU get?

      • maggieunz says:

        Ooooooh… take me shopping and let’s see what I come home with. I already know East County has my name all over it. :) )))))))))))

  7. journeykit says:

    Life with no cages means a life with no limitations. Since most of my limitations are self imposed, I have to push myself to break out and embrace what is waiting for me beyond!

  8. no cages means doing things my way.  all the time.  living my life for me, without adhering to someone else’s rules.

  9. MCantu1019 says:

    Living life’s adventures to the fullest.

  10. purplelover04 says:

    it means living life in they style that i please

  11. purplelover04 says:
  12. pegasusfeathers says:

    Finally living instead of just going through the motions. I’m 33, a wife, a daughter and for the bulk of my life just a waster of days.  I’ve let myself get so low, so useless feeling, no woman…no person should ever feel like i’ve just let myself over the years.  I’ll never get to have any natural children and have nothing special to offer so I’ve always kind of felt like I have nothing to look forward to, such an awful way to be. I found your blog today because I’ve been looking, considering a harley.  Now, I’ve wanted a motorcycle since I can remember but always felt like I had to have someone elses okay to get one, really I felt like I needed someone elses okay to do anything in my life therefore I’ve wasted alot of years.  Last weekend, yes very recently, I went on a drive with my Mom on a stretch of road out of town just to get out and go and on that ride I talked to her alot and made a decision, I’m going to start living on my terms.  I don’t do anything wrong, no bad habits and I’m a friend to everyone around me.  I’ve watched the world pass me by and I want to have something I look forward to each day.  I need to have something I want,, something I enjoy and something I can do without asking if it’s ok and something I can do all by myself if I want.  I told my husband who in the past has told me no to a bike what I wanted, how I felt about it and this time he didn’t say no, he asked me how much it’d be.  The only thing he did ask is what my Dad would say, if he would let me as if I was 13 not 33.  That kind of thinking, that worry about having everyone’s approval has made me miss so many chances and I can’t keep doing that to myself.  I can’t keep staying caged up till it’s too late to enjoy this life. So no cages for me has alot of meaning.  I have to admit I’m scared but I’m ready to finally do something I’ve always wanted.  If might take me till next year to get what I want and it will probably be used but I won’t care as long as I get one day of that feeling of having and doing what I want and not what someone else wants for me.  Sorry to write a novel, I’ve been havig alot of emotions about life in general (sound like a crazy broad huh) for awhile and have realized I better start getting up and enjoying theses precious days.  I feel like everyone around me is living while I watch and my butt’s getting tired of this couch.  Thank you just for the chance, this would be a reminder of what I’m aiming for.  I’ve already set my little fund up and have been looking at classifieds.  I can’t keep worrying and thinking what if and will someone else approve.  So glad you had this experience, I know it had to be a blast.
    Thanks so much, this would give me something to remind me of what I have to look forward to!
    pegasusfeathers at gmail dot com

    •  @pegasusfeathers i read your comment and the line about you not being able to have natural children so you have nothing to offer grabbed me.  it hurt my heart to think that you feel (or felt) that giving birth is the only thing you have to offer.  please know this is not true.  not even close to true.  in fact, not having children may even free you to make major contributions to this world!  don’t sell yourself short!

      • pegasusfeathers says:

         @hello haha narf  @pegasusfeathers
         I think I’m having a not so mid life crisis maybe or something close to it.  I’d like to think of it as a realization that if I don’t make it happen it won’t, what I want in life that is.  I love my husband dearly and I don’t want anyone to think I’m complaining about my home life, I’m very loved I’ve just been very protected let’s call it.   I just need something that is mine, something i look forward to that no one tells me I can’t whether it’s a person or just nature.  I’ve let alot that I could of done pass me by because of people  that mean the most to me telling me I can’t or shouldn’t for one reason or another.  I was really sick when I was little and was then in a major car accident when I was a teen when I got a ilttle older (I mean early 20′s)  I’ve had to have surgery for arthritis and have just never been 100%.  But anyhow, I remember telling my Mom I didn’t think i could have kids and she told me that she and dad had talked before and thought I was too sick to have kids.  Well, I won’t have any so I guess they were right.  I’ve come to terms with it most days but I have to admit that some days something makes me think about it and it can be hard.  That’s not all of it though, it’s just everything I denied myself  over the years that I could of made happen and didn’t.  It’s hard to type out what I’m feeling without sounding like a sob story.  I just am trying to not get discouraged or deny myself again of something I want. It’s not the need for a material thing it’s the need for the feeling it will bring, what it will mean to me.  It’s not just cool clothes and slick black paint, it’s letting go and living.  I’ve always wanted to please everyone else and i’ve just realized I don’t want to have any regrets, there’s nothing stopping me from this except someone else telling me I shouldn’t and saving the money for the one I want. (I do have a messed up hip and leg so I will be going for a trike) I think maybe I still worry about seeming selfish and I do think about my Dad getting upset but I need for him and others to think about what they’ve got to do in life, things they’ve wanted to do that they didn’t ask for approval for and things like having a family that for alot of people is just a given.  I think maybe my emotions have really overwhelmed me here lately and maybe I’ve shared more than necessary because of it.  I just over think everything too much.
         
        A converstaion with my Dad just a few days ago was about doing what makes you happy and I think maybe he realizes I haven’t done the things I’ve wanted to do and maybe he kind of knows he needs to give me some kind of nudge now.  He said something to te effect of having one day to live and doing something you love to do or having a week to just sit around, stare at the TV and wait it out, which one would you choose.  I’d rather have that one day. 
         
         

    •  @pegasusfeathers I totally get this. It’s hard to get past the need for the approval from those around us. I know. I was a terrible people pleaser. The problem was that I would resent everyone around me for it because, like you, I missed so many opportunities. Go out and live your own sweet life, lady!!
       
      PS: Don’t let people should on you! ;)

  13. Being me and living life without limits.
     
     

  14. No cages means, trying to reach your goals fearlessly! Thanks for a super giveaway!
     
    My email: anashct1 [at] yahoo [dot] com

  15. Tweeted:
    https://twitter.com/anashct3/status/240269787287134208
    Thanks for the chance to win!
    email: anashct1 [at] yahoo [dot] com

  16. Tweeted:
    https://twitter.com/anashct3/status/240277874790256640
    Thanks for the chance to win!
    email: anashct1 [at] yahoo [dot] com

Trackbacks

  1. [...] summer, I had the great opportunity to visit Harley-Davidson headquarters. During that visit, I took an intro to motorcycle riding. The instructors called it a [...]